Exchanging messages back and forth gives you an idea of what the other person is like. But this shouldn’t go on forever. At some point, you’ll know if you want to go further by meeting in person for a first date. But how do you go about this?  Should you just ask the person outright if they want to meet sometime?

Absolutely! It doesn’t matter how you say it, what’s important is to not be afraid to ask and let them know that you want to take it a step further. If you feel that there’s a good connection between you two, there’s a high probability that they’d agree to meet. But of course, there’s still that chance that they’d say no. In that case, that’s okay, at least you know that you two are not a good match after all.

It doesn’t matter if it’s the man or the woman who does the asking. Whoever feels ready should take the initiative and bring it up. You never know, the other person may just be too shy to ask.  

Okay, so you asked the question, and they said yes. Now where should you go for that first date?

Aside from a few places that are unsuitable for a first date, like your own home, the cinema, or a loud bar, anywhere else is good as long as you both agree to it. It can be a coffee shop, a restaurant, a party or a special event. The important thing is that you’re both comfortable with the idea. The best place is where you can have a relaxed conversation because a first date is all about getting to know each other and getting a feel of the other person. You can’t do that in a club where the music is loud and most people are dancing. Or in a movie theater where you can’t do anything but sit side by side and stare at the screen.   

But what about your home? It’s not noisy, it’s relaxing, but why is it not a good idea to invite them over for your first date? The answer is simple -- safety.  After all, your date is basically a stranger. Who knows if they’ve really been honest on the internet? Or what if you discover during the date that you don’t like them after all? As a rule, never have your first date within the confines of your own home, or theirs. It’s still best to meet in a public place, where either of you can easily extract yourself from the situation should something goes wrong.